Self-discovery is undersold and oversold. To know and understand we are dynamic in nature and constantly changing if we allow ourselves to see is not much known piece of information. On the other hand, given the renewed interest in ‘self-help’, it appears to have a strong streak of commercialism in it. So we are privy to things that have the possibility of profitability. A lot of times.
Yet, if we chose to look closely, self- discovery is needed. In fact I will go as far as to say cannot be avoided. If we choose not to look at, it like a persistent, demanding uninvited guest keeps showing up on our doorstep. At first they may just be gentle reminders. The more it is ignored, the more it persists and finds unusual ways to make its presence felt. Self-discovery is best taken on willingly. It has most chances of success and opens the door to unbridled joy, peace and excitement.
Alas, before we let it in. We may need to look at some not so pleasant emotions or beliefs. Most of us may feel fearful of what we may find if we look closely inside. If we have been at the receiving end of being told not-so-nice things about ourselves in not-so-nice way, we may dread finding a monster beneath. If we have been told we are really special, can do nothing wrong. Well, you would think that may make it easier. Ironically, buried deep, deep inside we may find the same fear and dread that we may have a monster inside. If we have never been told much about ourselves, we dread we will find nothing but emptiness inside, for we don’t much matter.
Whatever we have been told, we never even find that. Ever. In the myriad journeys, I have taken inside of me, some you have witnessed over the last year. In the myriad journeys I have accompanied others take inside of themselves, no one ever found that monster inside them. Most times, the monster like figure almost always seemed to protect a lovable, kind and capable, very worthy being inside.
And most times, the collateral gain we make while we traverse the dread, fear, despair, may be shame to find that totally cool being deep inside of us, we have such collateral discoveries about ourselves.
I found my love for nature, plants, art, books as I journey along.
What did you find on yours?