It’s common to hear the refrain, “let’s not get emotional about it, think practically”. Well, I spend majority of my life doing just that. Working hard to keep my emotions aside and use my enhanced thinking brain to solve the problems of my life or even advance further. Being ‘emotional’ even as an emoticon is a crying face, so it’s known that in common parlance, it stands for being weak, swayed detrimentally by feelings. As the British do, maintain a stiff upper lip, it has great social value, you looked up to as the ‘strong one’.
So we know why and how we came about not liking emotions. Now research time and again shows that the human brain works in its entirety to make pragmatic decisions. The prefrontal cortex or the thinking brain doesn’t work in isolation to give you the wonderful decisions you take, it needs to take the emotional part of the brain and the reptilian or the oldest part of the brain into account. Cos it’s the reptilian brain that takes in information from the environment, passes it through the part that seats our emotions and memory and then, what seems ‘emotionally significant’ is passed on to the upper management, the thinking brain. There is no way you can surpass the part of the emotions. If you try to, and believe me, a whole lot of us try very very hard; it either makes the emotions take over and make faulty decisions. Or it doesn’t take into account much of feelings and hence, makes skewed, rigid and robot like decisions. If anyone has a boss with the latter characteristics will know how touch it is live with it.
So emotions remain vital. When we take into account what we feel, it makes for a complete, wholesome decision and collateral gain, you will feel good and content inside of you too.
When we are in touch with what we feel, it’s also easier to see another being, see them with their unique likes, dislikes, beliefs, preferences, eccentricities and still be ok with them. It’s easier then, to see it in the background of their life, their circumstances, their stories and it’s easier to be accepting, it’s easier to connect, it’s easier to find compassion, it’s easier to love, it’s easier to be humane, it’s easier to realise and know,
What makes us unique and similar is the same, our ability to feel differently yet with the same emotions.