Some truths are really hard to comprehend. Climate change, terrorism, human trafficking, child abuse, 30 feet tsunamis, street violence, and many more.
It’s human nature, a protective shield, to build ways, at times lies, to deal with what may seem unfathomable. It may feel like being weak, stupid, incompetent, a nincompoop, may be a loser. But we all do that, at one time or the other to deal with one thing or the other that seems very very difficult. We all need to survive, our brain and body when overwhelmed, sometimes to the point of life threat, devises unique protective shields aka lies to make our life bearable.
The lies may be ‘If I am weak, then I will no be loved’, ‘to be loved, I need to be perfect’, ‘if I am responsible for everything that everyone feels, then I am ok’, ‘if I control every thought, I am safe’, ‘if I feel angry, I am a loser’, I am guessing you get the drift. This is one of the common one and the most painful and possibly devastating, ‘if I need or Ask for something, I am selfish. I don’t deserve to be loved’.
So next time you find a protective shield aka a lie, look at it with some compassion, ask it, ‘what is your purpose? What are you protecting me against?’, ‘thank you for doing such a great job when I needed that protection. Do we need to that today?’, ‘is there any other way we can accept it today? I am bigger and stronger, more resourceful. May be we can fulfil that need, the need to be loved, to be competent, to belong, to be successful, to be human in a healthier way!
And you will discover, the lie doesn’t exist anymore and the truth is easier to live with.